So here we are Tuesday and I still haven’t been able to shake this whole “cornrow” situation that blew up on Twitter regarding NK. At this point, my anger and disgust more so stem from her reaction to all of this, whether than her initial actions of wearing the style. True everyone makes mistakes, but how one goes about the situation in the end is what can deem one noble. The case here is that NK simply feels as if she did no wrong, therefore she will never take responsibility for her offensive actions. There wasn’t a drop of nobility to her response to the backlash, which is important to note, because most of it came from the same black and brown people in the community she claims to care about. Her excuses, invalid points and retweets from clueless supporters shined a bright light on her white supremacy and entitlement. Rather than listen and attempt to have a constructive conversation about her use of the term “ghetto” and cultural appropriation, she jumped right into defense mode. The straw that broke the camel’s back for me was her having the audacity to call one of the most dedicated people to diversity in the scene right now, whom also happens to be a black woman, a racist. That’s the point when I lost all respect.
“How dare you speak to me this way” NK tweeted in response to one of the tweets critiquing her actions. It’s clear to me that this woman has never had anyone check her ass, and she simply folded under the pressure- I for one am not surprised. People like her spend their careers profiting off black culture, yet when it comes down to it, our concerns are invalid to them. This entire situation reflects that. These are the same type of folks who will run around screaming “black lives matter”, yet when it’s time to a be a true ally mf’s are SILENT. Personally, what I want to know is, where are all of the top white feminist DJ’s in this conversation? The social justice warrior types who always have something to say about every political thing yet won’t use their platform and white privilege to denounce the inappropriate actions of one of their peers. Again, not surprised. When sticking up for black people is convenient, everyone is on top of it, but I suppose this situation isn’t the most convenient one (being the power of the woman in question), so they don’t say shit. Ain’t that a bitch?
This entire situation has been equally draining and nauseating. I like to consider myself a strong person, but I won’t lie, this situation has hit me to my core. It’s one thing to have internet trolls coming for me, but for another black woman and DJ that I at one point admired and looked up to, come at me publicly telling me that I’m speaking out on all of this in hopes of “attention” or “accolades” is seriously disappointing. My initial tweet on this topic (that just happened to blow up on Twitter), received way more attention than I imagined. I was in a heated mental state and typed the first thing that came to mind. I don’t need attention, I’m not a hater, nor am I jealous. I’m a black woman who is passionate about my culture, dance music, and braids for that matter- I rock them about 60% of the time. I’m wondering if this person, someone who I’ve known for years, and is a fellow black woman, would have had my back the same way had I been in question about something? Now I’m not here to disrespect anyone, but I am indeed a 34-year-old grown ass woman who is not afraid to speak to my mind. As I mentioned above, the silence and ignorant statements from many on this issue are VERY telling. Scary to think that these are some of the same folks we rub elbows with at clubs and festivals around the globe.
As a black woman who wears cornrows on a regular basis, I find pride and strength in rocking the style, and it often feels like a form of resistance against the white society that tells me I need to wear my hair straight to be accepted. Perhaps this is what makes the topic a sensitive one, because to me, the style is not simply a fad or a costume for the night- it’s my heritage. Here’s a quick story for reference; when Resident Advisor reached out to me to contribute to their infamous podcast series I was elated, I felt like it would be the perfect opportunity for me to put some shine on my DJ career. When it came time to select a photo to accompany the podcast, I immediately told myself I would go with one of my more “polished” photos wearing straight hair- I told myself this was “prettier” and would draw more attention to the mix. I soon after realized how stupid I was being, and that I too was playing into society’s preference for European beauty standards. At that point I said the hell with it, I’m going to rep for the culture like I’ve been doing, I mean, that is what my platform, Underground & Black is all about. So yeah, the decision to use a picture with me wearing cornrows was a conscious one, one that was rooted in much more than simply being “cool”, “bad ass” or “ghetto” for the night. At the end of the day though, I realize that no matter how shitty NK’s cornrows looked, me, a black woman in the same exact industry with the same exact style, would never, and will never, receive the same amount of love and compliments for doing it.
Why is it so often that white people get applauded for doing the same exact things that black people have been doing for centuries? It’s truly absurd how so many seem to be completely unaware of how frustrating stuff like this is for black people. We literally cannot have ANYTHING to ourselves. We live in a world where people get upset that we get one measly month to celebrate our culture. We live in a world where non-black people think it is acceptable to use the “N” word simply because we do. We live in a world where non-black people profit off our culture, language, music, style, etc, everyday single day, all the while many of us still struggle on the sidelines. White people run our society, have a much better chance at successfully navigating through this tainted world and are somehow still upset about black people wanting to keep certain things solely in our community. The white entitlement is clear as day, and way too many folks feel so openly entitled to everything.
This is the world we live in, and I realize some of you will never know what it’s like to be a black man or woman living in a white man’s world. From day 1 of stepping into DJing I knew I’d never be the most popular or make the most money even if I truly was the best at it, and honestly, I’m okay with that. Unbeknownst to some, I’m not in this game for fame and fortune, I’m in this shit because its my passion. Being that I am a black woman born and raised in Detroit, this is literally my roots, my upbringing- I’ve been involved in this shit since I was a kid, and it’s important to me that folks know that. That they know my sheer commitment to everything dance music related, whether it be this very blog, my radio show, an interview I conduct, or a black artist I book. I am someone out here making a true contribution, as is Frankie of Discwoman, yet here we are being shaded for speaking out on what is right and what is wrong. The irony.
I’m convinced a lot of people truly do not understand the concept of bullying. Holding someone accountable for shitty mistakes is NOT bullying. A critique of someone’s careless actions is not hating, nor a reflection of what someone thinks of this person’s musical ability. People are turning this thing into something that it is not without realizing the bigger picture, which is that this conversation is much bigger than NK. This is not the first and not the last time this discussion will be had, trust me.
As I wrap all of this up, I simply want to say, LISTEN. Listen when black people or minority groups get offended about certain words, behaviors, or actions; show us the respect of hearing us out. Writing us off and ignoring our concerns is not conducive to growth and understanding. Also, if you call yourself an “ally”, stand up for us. SAY SOMETHING. White silence on these types of issues is one of the main reasons why things like cultural appropriation bothers us. This idea that it’s okay to mimic black people when its time to look “cool” and “have fun”, but when shit gets real many of yall are nowhere to be found. I could talk about this shit all day to be honest, but I’m choosing to move forward. Many of us have our points and thank you to those that stood up and showed solidarity. The black community came together on this, and it is important that we remember to come together ALL OF THE TIME, not just when these types of battles arise.
It was important for me to use my platform to talk about this, because we all know every other outlet is going to tip toe around it and wait for it to blow over just like every other “Techno Twitter” battle. These are valid discussions that need be had, and the work doesn’t stop with this post. All of my Underground & Black projects have been about CELEBRATING and INSPIRING, and that is what I plan to continue to do. And hey, if I have to call bullshit on certain things from time to time, I’m down for that too. Although my blackness may be a trend and novelty to you, it is not to me, and I take it very seriously. I am not shocked to see how offended some get when a black woman speaks her mind, this is how the story goes people! Today, I still stand with my head high knowing that I got the cities of Detroit and Atlanta behind me. I’m going to keep doing me yall.